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Thursday, February 02, 2006

Why is it so easy to hurt someone's feelings? A single sentence or phrase, no matter how insignificant you may think it to be, can hurt another in indescribable ways. Yet most of the time people do it unknowingly..but sometimes that's why it hurts the most; people don't mean to do it and there's no reason we can find to justify them saying certain things, other than their words being a part of their personality and who they are. Sometimes it's one party being too sensitive; sometimes the other may be too insensitive. Either way it's hard for each side to see things from the other's point of view. But from an outsider's point of view, neither side is in the wrong. Sometimes it's just about give or take, and about taking the effort to try to understand why certain things are said. And it's also about expectations. If we expect a person to behave a certain way because of our relationship to them, we feel hurt when expectations aren't met. Like I said, it's ironic that the people most close to us have the potential to hurt us the most.

As a wise friend said, "I need a magic wand. so that whenever the people i love feel sucky, i can use it to wave all the suckiness away, and make everything good again." :)

Anyway it's felt like a long long day..my longest day of babysitting yet..and the annoying construction site behind my house was in full force today, banging and hammering away and resulting in a very cranky Lucas because he couldn't fall asleep :P But I shouldn't complain; mothers have to deal with a lifetime of mothering, I can handle a couple months of babysitting:)

Just returned from dinner at patrick's place..he's back from london for cny..nice to see everyone again:) Haha auntie Liming was so nice!she's in a korean drama phase now..she was appalled when I told her I didn't watch them at all and she practically forced me to borrow a couple to occupy me for the next 3 weeks..Haha her husband was complaining that he would have to endure watching teary korean dramas every night because of her hogging the television set. His basic rules of korean drama:

1. There's always a hospital involved.
2. The poor innocent main character always bottles things up and refuses to tell the truth for fear of hurting another character's feelings.
3. Very very very slow-moving storyline.

Heh was organising my photos..thanks xinli for faithfully always sending me photos:)

Sleepy now. Had originally planned to just jump into bed right after returning from patrick's but then I got surprise call from a friend looking for someone to disturb:) Haha don't get too stressed k? And just call if you ever need to unwind again:) Catch up with you again soon! Good night world. :)

~me~ at 4:22 AM

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Thursday, February 02, 2006 Why is it so easy to hurt someone's feelings? A single sentence or phrase, no matter how insignificant you may think it to be, can hurt another in indescribable ways. Yet most of the time people do it unknowingly..but sometimes that's why it hurts the most; people don't mean to do it and there's no reason we can find to justify them saying certain things, other than their words being a part of their personality and who they are. Sometimes it's one party being too sensitive; sometimes the other may be too insensitive. Either way it's hard for each side to see things from the other's point of view. But from an outsider's point of view, neither side is in the wrong. Sometimes it's just about give or take, and about taking the effort to try to understand why certain things are said. And it's also about expectations. If we expect a person to behave a certain way because of our relationship to them, we feel hurt when expectations aren't met. Like I said, it's ironic that the people most close to us have the potential to hurt us the most. As a wise friend said, "I need a magic wand. so that whenever the people i love feel sucky, i can use it to wave all the suckiness away, and make everything good again." :) Anyway it's felt like a long long day..my longest day of babysitting yet..and the annoying construction site behind my house was in full force today, banging and hammering away and resulting in a very cranky Lucas because he couldn't fall asleep :P But I shouldn't complain; mothers have to deal with a lifetime of mothering, I can handle a couple months of babysitting:) Just returned from dinner at patrick's place..he's back from london for cny..nice to see everyone again:) Haha auntie Liming was so nice!she's in a korean drama phase now..she was appalled when I told her I didn't watch them at all and she practically forced me to borrow a couple to occupy me for the next 3 weeks..Haha her husband was complaining that he would have to endure watching teary korean dramas every night because of her hogging the television set. His basic rules of korean drama: 1. There's always a hospital involved. 2. The poor innocent main character always bottles things up and refuses to tell the truth for fear of hurting another character's feelings. 3. Very very very slow-moving storyline. Heh was organising my photos..thanks xinli for faithfully always sending me photos:) Sleepy now. Had originally planned to just jump into bed right after returning from patrick's but then I got surprise call from a friend looking for someone to disturb:) Haha don't get too stressed k? And just call if you ever need to unwind again:) Catch up with you again soon! Good night world. :) ~me~ at 4:22 AM
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